Thomas's Timetable is Wrong

matisse, 3/28/2024, 10:53PM(31 days ago) @Kammie
edited by matisse, 3/28/2024, 10:57PM

She has never said that she did not want to marry him. What she said is that she is not ready for another marriage at this time. She has already gotten out of one nightmare of a relationship/marriage. If Thomas really loved Hope he would be happy to have her and respect and understand why she feels the way she does.

AND she has never lead him on. She has made it crystal clear that in the beginning it was just sex, then it became a relationship, and when she is ready it will be marriage if Thomas (or Hope) doesn't screw it up.

Exactly how this went. There was no leading Thomas on. She had not even said she loved him before all of this.

That is the only thing that Thomas brought up that I could see his point of view. However, he should have waited until she actually told him that she loved him (the man) before he popped the question. She was getting there, but he just had to rush things. He needs to learn patience, especially if he wants a wife so bad.

They are not college students dating. They are on the green side of 40. They have been having constant sex, at the office and at their homes. They have been doing things together day in and day out, and involving their kid and, her kid with Liam. They see each other everyday for probably 8-10 hours a day. Her not saying ILY to him was absurd by this point. Not saying she had to get engaged, but if she could not tell him she loved him as a friend, as her lover, as the father of their son, as anything other than she loves that he was 100% devoted to her, then she is not looking at him as a forever partner, and the truth may be, she may not ever want a forever partner again, which may be why she would not tell him she loved him. Maybe this was as much as she could give him or anyone at all now. Or ever. But, Tom sounds like he did not want to waste anymore of his time with waiting around for her to decide if she wanted another marriage ever or not. Tom knows that he wants a marriage, he has only had two, one lasted a month and he got sex once. The second one lasted a week, and he did not even get sex, and it was with Hope. Tom is probably ready for a real marriage, with a real wife, who really loves him as much as he really loves her. He owes Hope nothing. He wanted it to be her, it was not what she wanted, time to call it a day, and that is what he did, called it a day. They are done. I would think he would not even trust her if she all the sudden declared she wants to marry him now or even someday. She did not want their marriage years ago, and I know the circumstances were so wrong, but Tom was in love with her then, and wanted a real marriage with her then, and she could not give it to him even before she knew the truth about Beth. Tom is ready to settle down and build a life with a woman who wants to grow old with him, have children with him, and daylight is wasting, he has to be 40 or older by now. Why should he have to wait around for Hope and her "timetable".

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